Sex is one of the most basic physiological needs that man needs to sustain as per Maslow’s theory of need hierarchy. Sex is one of the acts that help an individual feel more secure and more loved and also generates feel-good hormones in the body like dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin etc.
While talking about sex the most important topic we all miss is the value of consent, we need to understand that a partner should not force himself or herself onto his/her mate. Because sex is not just an act of unification of genitals but also a very important factor to connect socially emotionally and psychologically.
“Violation of consent should be avoided at all costs as in legal terms it is a punishable offence.” Explained a very popular female sexologist in Amritsar.
“Protection is one of the things that we need to keep in mind while trying to get intimate with our partners, lack of use of protection may lead to sexually transmitted diseases like AIDS and vaginal tract infection.” Explained a doctor who has been assisting and diagnosing female sexual problems treatment in Jalandhar.
But apart from the size of the penis or the vagina, the problem of erection, an underdeveloped vagina which is usually addressed by a sexologist topics like sexual consent,
use of protection, exploring the partner’s body and sensing a level of security should also be addressed by a sexologist.
But the major question here that remains is how do we identify who is a good sexologist and what are the traits by which we can identify our go-to friend or doctor for our intimate problems?
CHARACTERISTICS OF A GOOD SEXOLOGIST
- LISTENING SKILLS: A sexologist should be a great listener and also a great empathizer he needs to first listen to the problem of the patient before having to diagnose him/her with the required medicine, it is not always necessary that the problem should be understood first and then the required advice should be given to the patient.
- The experience of the doctor and educational background of the doctor also matters when trying to understand the credibility of the same. The experience of the doctor and client testimonials on the doctor’s site followed by feedback through word of mouth should also be checked before having completely opened up to a doctor.
- SECRECY: In a country like ours where because of the influence of the west, sex has been always regarded as something which is bad or something which is an act of sin sex has always remained a taboo, and people have not been able to open up about their problems to anyone, the problem thus always existed between the couples and because of lack of resources or information it also gradually created problems in their relationship. Hence to win the confidence of his or her patients the sexologist needs to maintain secrecy and thus protect the interest of oneself and one’s clientele.